The Guide to Sextoys: Which Sex Gadget to Buy?

Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a day or for a year, you probably want to explore new horizons with your partner.

Today it is towards the sexual horizons that we will be moving and more particularly that of sextoys and the use of sex toys.

You may have used it solo before, but have you ever tried it together?

I tell you how a sextoy can boost your sex life!

Indeed, more and more popular, sextoys are no longer reserved for singles but are used by many couples in search of new sensations.

What is a sextoy?

Above all, a reminder for those who are already lost: a sextoy is, as its name suggests, a “sex toy”.

Existing since the dawn of time, they are generally used to give pleasure alone but can very well integrate into a couple’s sex life, even when fulfilling.

A large majority of sextoys manufactured today are dedicated to female pleasure, even if more and more toys for men and couples have been emerging in recent years.

Previously very basic, they are now devilishly effective little gems of technology and widely acclaimed all over the world.

The demand is such that today there are tens of thousands of different models. Enough to lose your mind!

This is why before rushing headlong to the sex shop in your neighborhood to buy a sex toy, it is better to ask yourself a few questions.

How do you know if you can use a sex toy in your relationship?

The first thing to know is: is your desire to try sex toys mutual?

If you’re not sure, take the time to talk to your partner about it.

The subject may seem difficult to broach, but it is important to communicate your desires within the couple.

Plus, these chats can be quite exciting in and of themselves and will be a good starting point to go deeper into your naughty explorations.

Be honest and direct, ask yourself specific questions to find out more about what turns you on and the other.

• What sensations are you looking for in bed?
• What does she like to feel?

Above all, do not try to impose your own desires and listen to his to determine which type of sex toy to direct you.

How to choose your sex toy?

If you feel that adventure also interests your other half, you can start looking for the ideal sex toy for your couple.

A word of advice, prefer to do your sextoy shopping for two, together, whether in a physical store or on a specialized online site, to already get in the mood and go hand in hand.

To help you make your choice of sex toys, here are the main categories of sex toys that exist on the market today and the different configurations in which you can use them.

Note that, although there are sex toys specifically intended for couples, the accessories initially intended for playing solo can quite become faithful companions during your lovemaking for two.

An accessory to start gently: the sextoy for beginners

For those who aren’t sure they’re ready or just don’t know exactly where to start, there are plenty of sexy little accessories out there to warm up your evenings with minimal risk and put your five senses to the test.

Try for example an evening massage with a scented oil or a special candle whose wax melts delicately to make your caresses more sensual.

Why not tease her with a delicate feather duster? You can also use a blindfold or mask over your eyes or hers.

Deprived of sight for a few minutes, you can concentrate your energy on the sensations.

If you both like things a little more full-bodied, consider small handcuffs, whips and whips or why not paddles, these accessories designed especially for spanking.

Classic sex toys for two

If the experience has been successful, you are ready for the next level, the sextoys themselves.

Let’s start with the stimulators for women, the most numerous.

They can be internal or external.

As you may know, arousal in men and women are very different and it usually takes 15–20 minutes for women to reach the arousal level required for penetration.

This is why it can be very positive to think about using female sex toys during your foreplay.

You will then have the choice between external stimulators, to stimulate the clitoris, or internal to stimulate the vagina and the G-spot .

External stimulators are vibrating sextoys, like the well-known little ducks, the “wand” these enormous rather unsightly wands which no longer have to demonstrate their effectiveness or the revolutionary novelties with contactless stimulation such as the Womanizer and the Satisfyer (orgasm practically guaranteed for your partner).

Internal toys, dildos, have a phallic shape and are meant to be introduced into your partner’s vagina.

You can choose them realistic or not, vibrant or not. The new materials used for making sex toys are very pleasant and respectful for the mucous membranes and some materials imitate the skin to perfection.

However, there is a wide variety of more fun and colorful vibrators out there for those who may be turned off by the realistic look.

One of the types of sex toys combines internal and external stimulation, it is the rabbit: it is a sex toy with a long part to be inserted into the vagina and a vibrating fold that will come to rest on the clitoris and stimulate it the same time. There are quite fine ones, ideal for a first experience.

As for male toys, there are rings (or cockrings) vibrating or not.

This accessory will tighten the penis to help maintain a firmer erection for longer.

If it is vibrating it will also be able to stimulate your partner’s clitoris during penetration and you will kill two birds with one stone.

If your partner is up for it, you can also invite him or her to accompany you in a pleasure session with a masturbator.

Masturbators are more or less elaborate sheaths in which you will introduce your penis and perform back and forth movements.

In a two-person session, for example, she can take over and perform these movements for you.

Sex toys for couples

As the sex toy market has expanded widely, sex toys specifically created for couples have emerged.

Vibrating eggs have had some success in recent years.

This is a small sextoy that your partner will have to place in her vagina but which you can keep control using a specific remote control, or using a smartphone equipped with bluetooth.

So during a public outing, you can make the egg vibrate at any time without the knowledge of the people around you, making this incredible moment exciting for her and you.

You will also find vibrating sex toys intended to be introduced into your partner’s vagina during penetration, which will also stimulate you when your penis is in contact with the toy.

For couples who are very connected, or living a long-distance relationship, the sex toy can help your virtual sex sessions.

Brands have invented paired toys: your partner will have a vibrator in hand and you a masturbator.

The two objects will reproduce the movements of the other, allowing you to share a moment of pleasure despite a long-distance relationship!

What about anal pleasure in all of this?

Many sex toys have been specially designed for anal pleasure. The plugs are sextoys intended to prepare the muscles for anal penetration.

Be careful to start with a small size to go to the larger ones. However, they can be self-sufficient and exist in a vibrating version.

There are also thin dildos that will be ideal if your partner wants a double penetration, in a single version or with a strap that will allow you to keep your hands free.

All these sex toys can obviously be used by you as well as by your partner, some are however intended to stimulate the prostate in particular in men.

The hygiene and health point to use your sex toy properly

We could not forget to inform you a minimum about the correct uses of intimate toys.

• Always clean them before and after use with soap and water or a special cleaner.
• Keep them each in a specific pocket (some are supplied with them, otherwise you can find them in store) and prevent them from touching each other, some materials can cause chemical reactions in contact with other materials.
• Since a sex toy is in contact with the mucous membranes, it is subject to the same rules as you with regard to STIs: cover them with a condom if you want to share them with others.

Where to order your sex toys and accessories?

If there were often sex shops near your station or in disreputable neighborhoods, sellers of sex toys and accessories now have beautiful shops and are also accessible online , in virtual shops that are full of choices!

• Espace Libido: a French online store located in Toulouse, with new products every week, a wide choice of references, and top customer service whenever you have a question about a sex toy.
• The Perfect Tag store: always up to date with the latest technological advances, the sex toys offered are chosen by hand and sometimes tested by the editors.
• For the less shy, go directly to the Passage du Désir boutiques, one of the leaders in the sale of sex toys and romantic accessories, welcoming and ideally located in Paris, Lille, Nantes and Marseille.
• Otherwise, on the web, there are always the Adam and Eve and SexyAvenue doing the job!

And to conclude this article, I’m answering a few questions about sex toys !

What is the lifespan of a sex toy? Does it wear out quickly?

Products in the “jelly” type hold up rather badly over time and can change in color or texture, but on the other hand new products in medical silicone are very resistant and healthy.

As for USB charging batteries, they can last for several years.

On average, you can keep a sextoy for 3 or 4 years (a little less if you have used it very often).

Can I give my girlfriend a sex toy without shocking her?

Everything will depend on your girlfriend.

Everyone has a different sexuality, which is their own, and if more and more women buy a sex toy, many still do not want to use gadgets in bed.

It would be best to first make sure that she agrees with the idea, to talk to her about it.

If she suggests that I use a sextoy, is that a hidden message to tell me that I am no longer enough for her?

Not at all ! A sex toy does not replace a partner and vice versa.

On the contrary, take it as a sign that she enjoys being with you and that she feels confident enough to share her fantasies and ideas with you to have even more pleasure with you.

Should I use a sextoy for each report or is there a risk of becoming addicted to a sextoy?

There is no obligation to use a sex toy with each report, nor to refrain from using it too often. It is not alcohol, no concern of “moderation” with sextoys!

The best is to follow your desires.

If you or she feels like using a sex toy often because it gives you pleasure or helps you reach orgasm (or better), is that really a bad thing?

Gentlemen, see you soon on www.leakedmag.com for new advices.