The 6 masculine qualities that a woman likes

Master Gentleman
10 min readNov 5, 2021

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You are probably wondering what qualities women like the most and what are the characteristics that make a man attractive. In a nutshell: you want to be the perfect man , the ideal man in the eyes of girls.

But there is not just one answer: it depends on the women . The qualities that appeal to women are similar, but their importance varies. Also, believing that you have to play a role and pretending to be very manly will help you to seduce is wrong. You can seduce and be yourself!

Today I am going to explain to you what are the 6 qualities that appeal to women the most so that you can improve yourself and seduce!

Trying to improve certain qualities will never make you perfect. No one will ever be perfect, the perfect man doesn’t exist, but that’s no reason not to try to show yourself in your best light and just try to be a better version of yourself!

Do women all like the same qualities in men?

Here is the list of qualities that women look for :

  1. Economic status
  2. Social status
  3. Intelligence, humor
  4. Physical form, appearance
  5. Social intuition
  6. Self-confidence

There are variations according to the women , according to their interests . For example, if you try to pick up a girl who works in culture, who likes to go to the theater, the intellectual dimension of your relationship will have an important place than your wallet.

She won’t be attracted to a guy with little culture, even if he has a high social status. Your economic and social status may be a bit lower if you have the culture she is looking for. Example: a teacher, a researcher, a cultivated guy but not very rich or famous.

The second variation concerns the age of the girl. Depending on their age, women don’t look for the same thing.

For example, in high school and university, many girls still live with their parents and receive money or a scholarship, have no financial autonomy.

The economic dimension therefore plays a less important role in terms of pure attraction (even if you still have to be able to go to restaurants, drink coffees, etc!): They accept and understand that you are not very rich either. , they live the same situation.

If it is not your money that will appeal to the youngest, your popularity, your repartee, your physical form on the other hand will play a big role during student parties. Hence the obsession of young guys for bodybuilding, to try to get out of the game: good idea in the short term , not necessarily in the medium and long term …

On the other hand, when it comes to a relationship, the economic dimension obviously plays a role: you surely have friends who go out with an older guy.

Their attraction is not only based on money, an older man is often more mature… but he also has more money, more possibilities to travel, to invite him wherever he wants! In short: a 30–40 year old guy has much more chances with a 20–25 year old woman than a 20–28 year old young man who must find his financial independence.

In older women, socioeconomic status plays a more important role. From a certain age, you must offer a pleasant and stable lifestyle, reassuring. You don’t have to earn a lot, but high socioeconomic status is a sign of quality of life.

I know men who are very successful despite their age, but they lead an active life: hikes, aperitifs with friends, weekends abroad …

Overall, the qualities that appeal to women remain the same across ages and cultures, David Buss explained.

The idea behind the list of manly qualities that follows is not to change who you are, but to improve your weaknesses and capitalize on your strengths.

Besides, you can take a look at this complete list of human qualities (206 adjectives to sell yourself positively in a job interview).

The 6 qualities that appeal to women

1. Economic status

In Scarface, Tony Montana says “ When you have the money, you have the power. And when you have the power, you have the women. This is not entirely true: economic status plays an important role, but don’t overestimate it.

Certainly, a man who makes a very good living will be attractive. But most women are not looking for a millionaire. Too many men take refuge behind this excuse not to make an effort in the conversation or effort in dress.

It would be difficult to describe how to change your economic status , especially since all of your situations are different.

The important thing is to have an attractive lifestyle. On a daily basis, you need to know how to spend when you need to. For example, I pay attention to what I spend and I do not multiply the outings.

But when I decide to eat out or go to the movies, I REALLY enjoy myself by having a dish that I like, a good dessert, or by buying popcorn.

Do the same: You don’t have to go out every night, but know how to spend your money when the opportunity is worth it.

Nothing worse for a woman than to realize that the man who covets her is tight-fisted . Greed is one of the worst flaws in the eyes of women, a real killer.

How to develop this quality? Concentrate on your job, on your studies, try to stabilize your sources of income.

2. Social status

Social status is the fact of being surrounded: of having friends having many acquaintances. The stars are the people who have the greatest social status because they are known by many people and esteemed.

But you don’t have to be famous to have good social status. You have to be sociable, which is relatively easy to learn as you develop your social ease. (= be comfortable chatting in a group, with friends, with colleagues).

You can also become recognized by becoming an expert in something. Are you the best in your football club ? Are you the one who cooks particularly well ? Your reputation precedes you, it can serve you!

A good social status is manifested by charisma. To develop your charisma within a group, you don’t need to be a leader.

Be proactive , be the one who brings the fun. Suggest places to go, activities. If you can, organize parties. The group’s driving force is always charismatic!

3. The mind

It’s a word that sums up both humor and intelligence. Girls judge him with 3 things:

  • your intellectual status (your degree and the way people see you. Are you able to talk about an artistic or cultural subject such as literature, cinema?)
  • your ability to lead an interesting and fun discussion regardless of the topic
  • your humor and your repartee, especially in a group.

These are qualities that do not necessarily require charisma. For a long time, I showed a spirit of one-on-one, but I couldn’t impose myself in a group. Improving these qualities therefore requires special efforts.

To train: read and listen. The repartee comes gradually. Watch the debates on TV.

In some series, the characters have a very effective comic repartee. Try to understand why a line is funny: often it’s absurd or ironic.

Read books in which the characters are respondent. For example, in “ Le mariage de Figaro “ by Beaumarchais, the eponymous character always has a good repartee.

Without curiosity, no culture… and without culture, no conversation. If you don’t have anything to suggest, the conversation won’t get very far. Curiosity is one of the qualities that appeal to women the easiest to develop! Go Wikipedia!

4. Social ease

This is what Howard Gardner calls social intelligence : the ability to understand others, and to empathize with them.

The best way to understand women well, to be tactful, is to learn to listen and to observe.

To work on it, go out, go out, go out. Good social ease is acquired by being around girls. It’s practice!

Women like men who have empathy. Focus on what they are saying, on the way they are speaking.

In Men from Mars Women from Venus , John Gray gives a common example: When a girl talks about a problem, men tend to come up with a solution.

But that’s not what they want: they want to be heard and understood.

Bounce back on what she says. Learn more about his impressions. Give small nods.

It is difficult if you are an introvert and you are used to having solitary activities (video games, reading…).

But it is a major factor in attracting women. If you identify it as your weak point, go out, see your friends.

Offer one poker night per month, board games, one restaurant outing per month, why not a weekend with friends too: offer group activities to get used to being surrounded, to listen to the opinions of others, to develop your social ease!

Nothing worse for a girl than to say “With my boyfriend, we can never go out, he does not know how to behave in society, he is not at ease in society!” “ .

Quality 5: Your physical appearance

There are three parameters to consider when it comes to appearance.

A: Pay attention to your look .

No need to spend 2 hours getting dressed though! But make sure you have good quality clothes that are easy to match. Dress for the Context: If you’re going to a dinner party, dress smart.

But never overdo it. If you’re inviting a girl to a weekend barbecue, you don’t have to put on a costume. A T-shirt and sneakers, in the right context, also have their charm.

B: You have to pay attention to your physique.

A healthy body can be seen and guessed under clothing. If you don’t, get active as soon as possible. And I invite you to reread the article “ How to seduce when you’re ugly “ to cheer you up!

C: Pay attention to your body language.

Even being well dressed and muscular, if your body language betrays fear and stress, you will not be attractive. Albert Mehrabian showed in his study that 55% of the message goes through the body and 38% goes through your intonation.

Learn to relax, to be comfortable. Your state of mind determines your actions!

Quality 6: Self-confidence

Your self-confidence manifests itself in several ways. Today, you don’t have to be the most muscular man in a bunch to be an alpha male !

Self-confidence is measured by your determination and willpower.

It is a masculine quality that women relate to being dominant. To find out if you have this quality, ask yourself these simple questions:

  • “ Or I’ll? “
  • “What do I want in life? “
  • “What do I want now?” “

It is necessary to have goals. A girl feels that sort of thing when you talk about your life and your plans. Determination shows stability and confidence, and makes your identity cohesive. You make him want to progress with you.

Your willpower plays an important role in your relationships with others, especially when you invite a woman somewhere. Don’t be afraid to be direct.

For example, when you propose a date, you have to adopt this state of mind: you KNOW that the place is nice and you make it discover. Be firm in your proposals, ban “ if you want “. This shows that you know what you are doing.

When you first send a message to a girl, your confidence shines through too. Don’t apologize for talking to him. Talking to a woman is normal. If you want to see her, tell her why directly.

Do not write: “ It might be nice that we meet, because you like jazz, me too, and I said to myself that we could discuss …”

You have to be more direct:Hi ! I saw that you like jazz. This group is doing a concert on Friday. Do you want to have a drink before you go ? “.

It’s yes, it’s no, but she will appreciate this masculine quality of the direct, confident man who is not afraid of taking a refusal, who is not afraid of being told no.

Women always prefer the man who offers and is sure of himself than the guy who beats around the bush for hours before revealing his true intentions.

How to acquire these qualities

The first thing to do is identify your strengths and weaknesses. You can impress a woman , but not by artificially displaying all of these qualities. Not by lying.

Do an exercise: write down two weak points and one strong point on a piece of paper.

You will know you are good at something. For my part, it is the “ spirit ” quality , I know that I should not improve it as a priority (I read a lot, I study a lot).

You will thus identify the dimension in which you are most comfortable. You will therefore know when you are best in seduction.

Then identify two weak points. Two things you will need to put some effort into to work on. For me, it is social and physical status . With my studies, I was very busy … I sacrificed going out with friends and sport, so I try to get back to it gradually to have a more confident walk!

Then make decisions that will move you forward. I signed up for a gym, and I go out every week!

Conclusion

The list of these qualities that appeal to women should not make you self-conscious. Each man has these qualities in different quantities.

The important thing is not to have all these qualities at the same time, it is not possible: the time that someone will spend doing sport, the other will spend it working. You can’t have it all. (unless you’re Elon Musk …)

Find the lifestyle that makes YOU happy. In a balanced life, all these qualities are present!

And you, what quality should you work on?

Gentlemen, see you soon on www.leakedmag.com for new advices.

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Master Gentleman
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