I fall in love too quickly: am I too sensitive?

You’ve been chatting with your Tinder match for several weeks now, and your heart crackles with each of its new messages.

When you first saw her, you felt your heart beat so hard against your chest that even the girl you wanted could hear your pulse.

Having so much love to give is beautiful to see.

But the problem is, feeling such strong emotions this quickly can scare off the women you’re in love with.

And finally, the delicious emotions and sensations that your love for this girl gave you are transformed into suffering when the young lady refuses your too rapid intensity …

Think you have an artichoke heart?

Find out the reasons for your “too sensitive”, and the solutions so as not to lose control.

5 reasons can explain how easy it is to fall in love quickly.

1 / You lack experience with girls

The number one reason you fall in love too quickly is because you lack experience with girls.

Think of a professional skydiver.

During his first jumps, his emotions are extremely powerful and are complicated to deal with. He pulls the parachute too soon.

But after ten or so jumps, his emotions become less intense and more easily controlled.

Fear, adrenaline, excitement… all these sensations remain present despite everything, but at a lower level. He controls the fall.

For your sensitivity with girls: it’s the same.

The more experience you gain with them, the less victim you will be of your sensitivity.

2 / You get carried away at the slightest sign of interest

Another reason for your sensitivity is probably also that you get carried away at the slightest sign of interest.

As soon as you see an attractive woman smiling at you, and that’s it it’s love at first sight. You can already imagine yourself at the wedding ceremony with this girl under your arm …

Except that the smile of this young lady, is perhaps simply a sign of politeness on her part, because she received a good education.

Don’t be blind to signs of interest. Yes, there are certain behaviors that are signals that a girl likes you .

But do not fall into the opposite extreme of seeing IOIs (Indicator Of Interest) where there are none.

Try to be as objective as possible.

3 / You invest too much, too quickly

In a relationship, the one who is most attached and who is the most in love, is often the person who invests the most.

At first glance, you may think it’s because you are in love that you are investing so much.

But the reverse is often true: you fall in love because you invest too much.

You use too much of your resources (time, money and energy) for this relationship which is not yet one , and therefore you become very attached.

And that can be the case too, even if you haven’t had any sexual or romantic experience with the girl you like.

Just thinking often about the woman you’re in love with eats up your time and energy.

And you say to yourself: “If I think about her so much, it’s because I’m in love, that’s for sure!” .

So learn to better manage your resources and spend them on different activities , so as not to suffer from your artichoke heart.

Invest in your lifestyle instead !

4 / You think she is the woman of your life

“She is the woman of my life!”.

Unless you’ve been in a relationship for years and had some amazing times with this girl, I’m sorry… but I’m going to stop you right now.

You are the victim of what is called: the One-Itis (OI) .

The problem is, every time you heal from your previous OI, you will fall back to it at the first girl you see who attracts you.

Print it on your head: no, this girl with whom you are in love and whom you have recently known is not the woman of your life!

5 / “I fall in love too quickly”: What if it was in your nature?

Another possibility to be aware of that you fall in love too quickly is that you may be hypersensitive .

A hypersensitive is a person who has a higher than average sensitivity to different stimuli.

He feels and reacts more intensely to events and emotions that go through him compared to the average person.

But if you recognize yourself in this profile, do not use this excuse as an excuse to explain your lack of emotional control.

Emotionally controlling yourself may take more effort than average if you’re hypersensitive, but you can still do it.

Controlling your emotions is a choice.

Warning ! I encourage you to control your emotions, but not to suppress them!

The basis for controlling your emotions is first to accept them.

Bonus: You are not tough enough

Finally, the last reason you fall in love too quickly is that you aren’t hardened enough.

Know that you can harden yourself even if you are hypersensitive.

If you want to toughen up, for example you can do combat sports, weight training, mechanics …

All the cliché activities on virility, but which by their physical difficulty harden.

On the other hand, do not try to become a machine without emotion.

Even if sensitivity is sometimes disabling, it is also one of your strengths.

Women don’t want a heartless man: they want a manly AND sensitive man .

Every cause has its solution.

By understanding these 5 causes and by following our advice, you will be able to overcome your over-sensitivity.