How to do Anal Sex ? Everything you need to know
It’s your fantasy of the moment, the forbidden taboo that you want to touch with your finger: you want to offer sodomy to this girl with the buttocks full of promise.
The problem is, you don’t know what to do not to rush her too much, not to sound like a pervert, not to disgust her, and to prevent her from leaving you if she finds it disgusting.
“her resistances vanquished, her little ass to you” would have declared the poet. You might as well tell you right away: I’m not in the best position to talk to you about anal, I have a major problem.
I have obviously already fucked young ladies with whom it happened all alone, but very often, despite their anal desires, despite my preparation work, my cock hurts them too much. However, all of the previous steps remain the same for you and me.
We start with a general inventory of society to understand why sodomy is not so easy to swallow.
7 Preliminaries for ANAL SEX
Why is it so hard to open up to sodomy when you’re a girl?
Because they think it’s humiliating: the consequences of slut shaming
Victims of “slut-shaming” on both sides, the girls are sometimes afraid for their reputation if they agree to sleep with us, and EVEN MORE, if they accept sodomy.
Slut shaming is being called a slut , being humiliated because you slept with a boy.
Frankly guys, would you call your mother a bitch? Would you call your sister a slut because she loves a guy and wants to sleep with him? No. Good then. Do not get into the game of guys who insult girls and call them sluts : it is not by adopting this behavior that we will all be able to fuck in peace.
Slut shaming is unfortunately not just the work of the guys towards the girls: between them, the girls are real slut’s tongues, this is nothing new. A very good friend (yes, very good, I know you read) told me this anecdote which illustrates the social pressure girls have on each other.
Sitting at the restaurant, they blabbled with girlfriends until it was about the ass and it happened about sodomy.
- “Ah me never, yucky.” “
- “Ah but so dirty, only whores do that …”
Disastrous round table, they certainly did not take cock from behind but all had a broom deep in the ass. Then comes the turn of my friend, sexually liberated (that means “who enjoys when you fuck her”), a real pleasure to take her and share sexual moments with her. In your opinion… with all the negative judgments made by her friends before her… she obviously didn’t say anything about her passion for sodomy . She couldn’t, otherwise it would sound like a bitch in the eyes of her friends.
So you will understand: one of the main concerns is social obscurantism, the pressure on women’s bodies. Decades and centuries of patriarchy, and this terrible “sin of the flesh”. Already that “recreational” sex is not well received, imagine those sword blows in the ass in the water : zero productivity, pure pleasure. Either a highway to Hell, direct.
It is therefore not very easy to directly offer to take her from behind … Now, the social framework being established, let’s move on to the girl you are interested in …
The importance of communication
I recently read a really great article from Ovidie. She detailed the practice of the “sexual menu “, or “sex à la carte”. The question arose as to whether to talk about all his sexual practices before going to bed for the first time.
There were good arguments for:
- We must talk about his “sexual card” before, just to be on the same wavelength
- You have to talk about your “sexual menu” before going to bed, because during sex we prefer to avoid unpleasant surprises.
But I remain convinced that we can uncover ourselves in bed, and discuss calmly between two coitus. The idea is not bad, however: it allows you to talk freely about anything that may happen.
It reminds me of what your seduction coach and a friend of his had done :
All the sexual practices they could think of, they put them in three columns. Yes, no, why not.
You can take inspiration from this “sex map” practice if you see that it is open to sexual communication.
Communication is done in pairs, and with respect. If you really want her to open up to you, one of the pillars of communication is non-judgment. To be able to open up to you, she must feel safe, out of sight.
And this is where you have to behave like an adult. Sex is the equivalent of a Disneyland for adults. These are our thrills, this is where we have fun. This is where we take pleasure.
Serial lovers have a secret weapon that average guys lack: they know how to shut their mouths and not repeat anything. A woman who knows that you will hold your tongue will give you everything, will give herself entirely to you, without any shame, without any embarrassment, because she knows that you respect her and that she can trust you.
If respect and trust are lacking , you aren’t likely to catch him from behind anytime soon.
How to offer her sodomy during sex?
Communication, you know, is not just verbal, it is also non-verbal. If, of course, you need to build her confidence and make her feel desirable and irresistible:
- I can’t take it anymore, I worship your sublime ass
- Your butt … I want … Turn around …
- I want your ass, now, right away …
- I tremble to fuck you tenderly
You say it as you feel it, as long as it feels wanted.
There are also ways of doing things, let’s say… ways of testing the waters and bringing things forward subtly, gradually.
While you lick her (cunnilingus), stick out a bit and watch how she reacts when you approach her anus with your tongue.
If it goes well, you can start massaging around the anal area, start playing with a finger on the entrance to her anus, until you put a finger inside. No rush, no panic, if she is very stressed, if she is very contracted, it may hurt her.
Another point: you never force. Really . I’ll let you see the list of anal injuries, it’s not very nice to see.
Last tip to go gradually: while you are in it (in front), try a finger to start, behind . If she’s already accepting some anal pleasure when you’re inside her and you slide a finger from behind, it’s on the way.
As the girls told us recently: no “surprise sodomy”, no “I got the wrong hole”, don’t be stupid …
While doing some research on the subject, I came across a page that spoke of “sexual perversions”. If you want. If that makes you happy. It turns out that we are here precisely to talk about pleasure, and not about morals.
Inception: how to give birth to the idea of sodomy in her?
Before revealing to you the five most effective techniques to get a woman to accept sodomy, one last reminder that should be obvious: no blackmail . No “if I can’t bugger you, I quit, I leave you, I divorce” .
No humiliating comparison either, no “your sister, she, however, takes it in the ass without batting an eyelid and she loves it” or other “but why did I leave my ex so open to put myself with a woman so stuck? » Denigrating your partner will never make you progress, manipulation will not bring anything good in your relationship.
FREE: 7 Preliminaries for ANAL SEX
Technique 1: Make her admit it’s an erogenous zone
“Why do you think homosexuals are happier than us and wilder than us?” Because they understood everything about anal pleasure… Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn’t try… ”
Use and abuse prejudices, clichés, it can lead to a good discussion. Be careful not to get caught in your own trap if she asks you to have your ass fucked too … (during oral sex, some cunning girls try to put their fingers on guys, yes yes … Good or bad, the choice is yours, we are not judges.)
And make him listen to Mylène Farmer … In your opinion, “Provided they are sweet”, what is it about?
Technique 2: set up an exploration frame
The basis of framing , the fact of setting a framework (we reveal hyper powerful frameworks to help women to let go sexually in Sexualization ). In this context of conversation, you will talk about adventure, exploration, making her admit that she likes discoveries, new experiences …
In due time, your language will know how to make him discover a new experience …
Technique 3: the flavour of the forbidden
Make her think about the subject “In your opinion, why is it forbidden and condemned by society and religions?” “
- Why do you think hard drugs are prohibited? Because it’s good, because it makes you addicted, because you become waste afterwards …
- Why is alcohol written “In moderation” on it? Because it makes you addicted, because you get high, because you no longer think about it afterwards.
- Why does the church forbid sodomy? Why was she punishable by jail or death in some states?
Answer: because it’s way too good . Because men are afraid of women who will look them straight in the eye and tell them “I really want you to bugger me”.
Technique 4: When pleasure is mental, not just physical
Many girls will tell you that sodomy first gave them mental pleasure, before giving them physical pleasure. If at the beginning, it was to please sometimes, they quickly took pleasure in the pleasure of their man.
This pleasure of knowing that not everyone practices, this pleasure of knowing that we are in the very intimate, the very taboo, makes it even more exciting.
I wish you all a very good exploration of anal pleasures, lots of lube and most of all, lots of hilarious anecdotes. Relax, it’s only ass …
Gentlemen, see you soon on www.leakedmag.com for new advices.
